tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post2171764496836135074..comments2024-03-14T04:00:03.991-07:00Comments on Baby Boomer Retirement: Healing Relationships with Your Adult ChildrenDeborah-Dianehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12743246284375884419noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post-38723303614608971812014-10-09T20:41:41.372-07:002014-10-09T20:41:41.372-07:00Thank you for your comment. I agree that critical...Thank you for your comment. I agree that critical parents doe cause a lot of the problems between generations.Deborah-Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12743246284375884419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post-69580165416428454102014-10-09T12:00:50.709-07:002014-10-09T12:00:50.709-07:00I think accepting their child’s difference is wher...I think accepting their child’s difference is where most parent fail in this regard. Estrangement typically begins when they criticize their choices. Of course, the usual reason for that is overprotectiveness on the end of the parents, whereas it may appear as lack of trust and confidence for the children. You’re right that it’s equality in the relationship that they want. So I guess the key here is open communication between the two, with both parties acting as adults in their relationship.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.restorationcounselingboise.com/" rel="nofollow">Brandi Kennedy @ Restoration Counseling</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03949224387644796890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post-85130048121853726972012-04-19T21:49:57.036-07:002012-04-19T21:49:57.036-07:00Thank you, Domestic Diva. We are actually going t...Thank you, Domestic Diva. We are actually going to be spending time this weekend with two of our daughters and their families. I am so glad that they actually want us in their lives!Deborah-Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12743246284375884419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post-31356194194195162582012-04-19T16:18:56.608-07:002012-04-19T16:18:56.608-07:00You have to be proud of yourself for investing so ...You have to be proud of yourself for investing so much thought and effort in protecting your relationship with your children. Kudos to you for that and for a terrific article.domestic divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15324117875413405647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post-89781315048202969212012-04-19T15:16:14.944-07:002012-04-19T15:16:14.944-07:00Thank you, Phil, for sharing. My relationship wit...Thank you, Phil, for sharing. My relationship with my own mother was strained for many years. Finally, I just began calling her every week and saying "Hmmm" and "Yes, you could be right," to everything she said. She is in her 80's, and I knew she wasn't going to change her opinions, no matter how outrageous some of them are. It has really smoothed over our relationship. However, we also live on opposite sides of the US, and rarely see each other. Family relations are certainly complicated, aren't they? I always swore I would have a better relationship with my own kids, and I do! I hope to help other people with this blog post, too.Deborah-Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12743246284375884419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2608503664772109513.post-27560453394482171432012-04-19T05:38:54.251-07:002012-04-19T05:38:54.251-07:00I was estranged from my own parents for 15 years. ...I was estranged from my own parents for 15 years. I am glad I made the effort to get in touch, even though we live in different countries and only visit a couple of times a year. They are now in their 80s and I am nearly 60.<br />I think when we are younger we do see parents as all-knowing, so feel threatened (at least my ex-wife did). As we mature we realise that they were ,making it all up as they went along, the same as we did.Philtratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17875172425954855773noreply@blogger.com